Category Archives: Mental Health

Failing . . . With a Smile



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How many times have you been told that you would fail at something – once, twice, too many times to count? I would be more upset if I failed and didn’t try than if I tried and failed. Why would I make this statement? People often look at failure as an “end all.” We need to understand that sometimes we need to fail in order to succeed. Failure can give one a reality check on where they actually are in life. Sometimes we want something so bad and we know that this is what WE want; but the universe may have other plans for us, thus, we fail at OUR plan. That plan may not have been right for us even if we thought it was. So what do we do . . . brush it off and start again. That’s the beauty about failing; we get to start again, refocus, and start new.

I’ve often stated that failure builds character. It shows you just how strong or weak you really are. If you fail and give up, drown yourself in your favorite ice cream, or look down on yourself as a failure – you’ve demonstrated that you don’t have heart, the drive to get up and prove your critics wrong. Then on the other hand, if you look at your failure as a life’s lesson, you can clearly see where things went wrong which will help you to do things differently and better the next time. I’ve gotten to a point in my life when people tell me “you can’t do that”, “you may fail if you do”, or “others have failed, what makes you think you will succeed” I just smile and think “at least I’m not afraid to try.”

Sometimes the wrong people in your life can cause you to fail. Those are the ones who don’t want you to succeed because they are not in a place where they want to be in life; thus, stealing your joy or happiness for what you want to do. First order of business, get these people out of your life. It doesn’t matter how close of a friend they are to you, you don’t need nor deserve that kind of negative energy. You need friends and family that will build you up, not tear you down. My philosophy is; if Plan A fails – remember, there are 26 letters in the alphabet and I will use all 26 letters if I have to.

So ask yourself – would you rather try and fail, than to have to ponder . . . what if?


Natural Alternative Medicine Tip #04 ~ Negativity

negative-commentsAn excessive amount of research exists to demonstrate that negative thoughts, feelings and words have a ghastly influence on health. At the point when these things are encountered, our imperviousness to specific sicknesses and maladies diminish quickly. Anger, anxiety and bitterness are characteristic traits, however we ought to never get stuck in them. Nothing enhances, nothing changes when we stay in a secluded and harming condition of being.

When we encompass ourselves with negative individuals, the ones who dependably discuss issues yet never take care of them, we let these thoughts enter our own particular subliminal personality. Whatever enters can influence the way we accept things throughout our life, and soon enough, we follow up on these convictions.

Negative things that people may say, can and will rub off on us. When this happens, we can get to be discouraged, which prompts an absence of inspiration. An absence of inspiration to do anything, including dealing with yourself, is a standout amongst the most extraordinary things you can do to lessening the quality and length of life.

Now and then, the best thing we can accomplish for others is to tune in, regardless of the possibility that it means listening to their issues. Only in light of the fact that somebody sees the world uniquely in contrast to you do, doesn’t mean you need to tumble down to their level.

Listen with an open heart and an open mind; this permits you to be thoughtful and keen in your reactions on what could possibly greatly improve the situation for the other individual. Now and again the individual won’t take anything gently, and can never see the brilliant side of things. Simply acknowledge this individual, and realize that maybe one day they will have the capacity to come around.

While being confronted with irate and worried individuals, address them in a smooth voice and be benevolent. Remember that anger and rudeness are both conceived from apprehension, as when we dread something we guard ourselves, communicating anger. Release it, don’t hold on to it, and move on with your own life. Acknowledge who you are and your own self-worth.

Natural Alternative Medicine Tip #03 ~ Anxiety

anxietyAnxiety is the body’s response to any change that requires an alteration or reaction. The body responds to these progressions with physical, mental, and enthusiastic reactions.

Anxiety is an ordinary piece of life. Numerous occasions that befall you and around you – and numerous things that you do yourself – put weight on your body. You can experience stress from your surroundings, your body, and your responses to certain situations.

Your body is intended to experience stress and respond to it. It can be positive, keeping us cautious and prepared to evade peril. Anxiety gets to be adverse when an individual confronts constant difficulties without alleviation or unwinding between difficulties. Accordingly, the individual gets to be exhausted and anxiety related strain builds up.

Stretch that proceeds without easing can prompt a condition called distress – a negative anxiety response. Misery can prompt physical indications including cerebral pains, irritated stomach, hoisted pulse, midsection agony, and issues with sleeping. It can also bring on or exacerbate certain side effects or infections.

Anxiety/stress can be unsafe when individuals drink alcohol, smoke, or use drugs to attempt to diminish their anxiety. Tragically, as opposed to calming the anxiety and bringing your body to a natural state, these substances have a tendency to keep the body in a stressed state and cause more issues within your body.

Researchers are not sure of the exact cause of anxiety disorders.  Like other forms of mental illnesses, anxiety disorders are not the result of personal weakness or growning up in a poor environment.  Most anxiety disorders start during childhood, adolescence, and early adulthood.

Natural Alternative Medicine Tip #02 ~ Forgiveness

forgivenessOne of the hardest things in life to do is to forgive. In order for us to forgive others, we must look deep within our own souls and search for what we need others to forgive us for.  Only then one realizes that forgiveness comes from within, not from just our words.[i]  It is one of the most compassionate things that we can do as a people.  If you really think about it, forgiveness is not about the other person; it is more about what you are feeling and your decision to forgive. When someone has done you wrong, often, your first instinct is never to forgive that person. You have just given that person power over you; the way you think, how you feel, and how you act toward others. Not forgiving others, especially family, can cause you to have:

  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Negative thoughts and feelings

There are different paths in life; forgiveness is a path to freedom for your body, mind, and soul.  Forgiveness is about healing ourselves so that we can move forward.

[i] “The Essence of Wisdom and Life” Copyright ©2011 D.A. Isley aka Dahveed All Rights Reserved ISBN-13: 978-0615575971 ISBN-10: 0615575978


OCDCAUSES – The individual who suffers from Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) becomes trapped in a pattern of repetitive thoughts and behaviors that are senseless and distressing but extremely difficult to overcome. Most people with OCD resort to repetitive behaviors called compulsions. The most common of these are washing and checking to see if something is locked, closed, etc.  Abnormalities in other parts of the brain and an imbalance of brain chemicals, especially serotonin, may contribute to OCD.  Researchers are still trying to pinpoint the exact cause, but, genetic influences, and environmental factors are being studied. 

TREATMENT – Depending on the severity of your symptoms, your doctor may prescribe only counseling or counseling and an antidepressant, such as fluoxetine, fluvoxamine, or sertraline.  Antidepressants are considered the most effective medicine for OCD, researchers are studying whether other medicines can be combined with antidepressants for better results.  For relieving anxiety of OCD, alternative therapies such as massage and yoga are helpful.

PREVENTION – There is no clear preventative measures as to not becoming obsessive.  The best way to prevent a relapse of OCD symptoms is by staying with your therapy and taking any medicines exactly as they have been prescribed.

Could This Be Me

mirror_reflectionI have questioned it while looking into the eyes of a man

That’s educated, once travelled the world, and she his equal

As they hold hands while I continue to listen, comprehend, and contemplate

Could this be me . . .

While questioning my own mental health at times,

Wondering, what is “reality” from one person to the next

As we all should take that question to heart, checking our own state of mind

While ending the day, opening the door and seeing her standing with open arms

Awaiting that evening kiss that caps off her day

And my only thought as I walk pass to the closest mirror and wonder  . . .

Am I looking into the eyes of a man that’s educated, once travelled the globe

And wonder  . . . is this my “reality”

As I’ve seen this face many times before along the streets, buses, alleys,

In buildings, in classes, and I searched the internet, encyclopedia

Where I find the many faces of schizophrenia

As it is labeled with unkind thoughts by those that don’t understand

How ones state of mind can change from a genius to thoughts of illusions

When they should be wondering  . . .

Could this be me?


For mild depression, acupressure is useful in alleviating many of the physical symptoms.

Depression can occur when you repress certain emotions.   By using anti-depression acupressure points, it can help to release blocked energy.  Acupuncture balances the flow of chi throughout the body and helps resolve the underlying imbalance contributing to the depression.  Siberian ginseng, licorice, and St.-John’s-wort can increase the availability of serotonin in the brain.

Herbal remedies commonly used for depression are not always recommended for Bipolar Disorder.  There are a few homeopathic remedies, including magnesium, acupuncture treatment, oil massage, yoga, meditation, t’ai chi, and gigong may often be very helpful for manic-depression.